Will you help me? I
want to raise generous children -- and not just at Christmas. I want to raise children who think more of
others than of themselves all the time and all year long. I want to raise children who are not selfish
or entitled. I want to raise children who
pitch in and help out, who volunteer when asked – and even when they are not
asked. I want to raise generous children. And not just at Christmas.
When we lived in Cape Girardeau, MO we had an unfinished
basement. I mentioned to a guy I knew
that I wanted to finish the basement. I
said it in passing. One week later there
were eight good old boys from Southeast Missouri tromping down the side yard of
our house to the basement door. They had
hammers in hand, tool belts, and tape measures.
They had lips bursting with chewing tobacco and a steely look of
determination. These men were here to
help. They stormed through the door like
men on a mission. It’s what men do.
Indeed. Men help
men. Men help men build basements. Men help men build their families. It’s what men do.
The basement turned out beautiful. These men took pride in their work and
teaching me to do what I didn’t know how to do.
They mentored me. They
invested in me. They reminded me that the basement I was
building was for my family.
I hate chewing tobacco. I haven’t tried it since. But I love those men. They taught me about carpentry – something I
knew nothing about. I didn’t know what I
was doing and they didn’t care. They let
me get in the way. They were there to
help. They were generous.
We may not always know what we are doing. I don’t.
I’m not a very good carpenter and I am not always a very good Dad
either. I’m sometimes a little hard
hearted and a little thinned skinned.
I’m not always so generous. I
don’t always put the needs of others before my own. Sometimes I’m just looking out for me. This
is why I need you. This is why we need
each other. I need someone to say,
Hammer and Nails or not, this is for our families.
So make it a point to make a difference. You are a Dad. You are a GREAT DAD. I learn from you – and our children are
learning from all of us. Put the needs
of others before your own. Pitch in and
help out – even without being asked. Be a
generous Dad and your children will be generous like you.
Jeff Sippy, self-described as a "Carpenter and Dad-in-Training," lives in Springfield, MO where he serves as Senior Pastor for Redeemer Lutheran Church. He and his wife, Cindy, are the proud parents of three young adult sons.
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