Good dads are not always tall, handsome, charming, or
engaging. Some are short, average looking, quiet and shy. But a good dad always
looks like a hero to his children. His super power may be juggling oranges. His
cape may be a bath towel. His undershirt may not have an ‘S’ on the front but
it might say ‘World’s Greatest Dad”, a gift from last Father’s Day.
No doubt, dads come in all shapes sizes and dispositions.
But all good dads have something special to share with their children. It might
be his presence at any important event. It could be his duty to see to his
kids’ well-being and safety. It could be sharing his love of by sharing his interests.
Usually, they just do what they need to do for their family.
Following are examples of three dads I know personally, all
of whom could be nominated for “Dad of the Year” in any year!
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The first Dad has a bald spot on the back of his
head. He is overweight and misses his days as a smoker. He never finished high
school, but he has an honest, difficult job and works very hard every day. He
has a charming habit of mispronouncing words and has a hearty laugh. He has two
children who have been adored by him and his mother. They are getting the
education he never had. They have been encouraged, loved, guided, and
corrected. A more dedicated father you
will not find. This is what a good dad looks like.
·
This next dad is quiet. He loves sports but will
pass up a big game for his family.
Growing up without a loving father, he was fortunate to have a mother and aunt
who worked together to raise him and his sister. His aunt took him to
basketball and baseball games, cultivating his love of sports. He waited into
his thirties for the right person to marry and he and his wife now have a young
son and a baby daughter. You should see the look in his eye when he talks
about, or plays with his three-year-old
son. He makes sure he has lots of balls around, just in case his son takes to
them. He gently holds his eight-month-old
daughter in the air and kisses her on the neck and cheeks. Diapers, cooking,
laundry, he pitches in no matter the chore. This dad will be the dad he never
had. His dedication to fatherhood and family are as obvious as his soft-spoken
nature. This is what a good dad looks like.
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The third dad stays up late to catch up with a workload that could never be caught. When he
does take a break, he researches his interests in nature, science, and a myriad
of other things. But he is never too busy to teach his two young daughters
about different kinds of bugs, the constellations, or plants. He combs his
older daughter’s hair in the morning, not as well as her mother, but not bad.
Often he speaks German to his girls to spark their interests in language, even
his two-year-old. This dad talks up to,
not down to his daughters. He teases, hugs, cheers, and loves. This is what a good dad looks like.
Summary
These are three men I know in my life who are worthy symbols of excellent fathering. A
good dad, with a good mom, will give a child the most basic elements necessary
to have successful lives. That being the knowledge they are loved,
self-confidence, a support system, encouragement, understanding limits, and so
much more. So what does a good dad look like? He’s tall or short, fat or skinny,
black, white, or brown, bald or bearded, quiet or loud, but most of all he is
engaged with his children, he is a mentor, and he is proud—to be a dad!
Michael Smith, the author of The Power of Dadhood: How to Become the Father Your Child Need, is the father of three adult children and grandfather of four. He is a retired US Air Force officer and resides with his wife in St. Louis, MO. Michael can be reached for question or comment at mike@michaelbyronsmith.com.
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