When my boys were small they took up
the sport of hockey. This was hard for
me. I knew nothing about hockey. To me, hockey was for thugs who had got
kicked out of figure skating class.
I was not alone in my
perception. Many people close to me were
curious about my enrolling my children in a sport known for aggression and
fighting. Why not soccer, or basketball,
or football?
We are all responsible for the image
we portray. If the game of hockey is
known for aggression and fighting, then hockey is responsible for its
image. I am learning, however, that
hockey is not the only place where aggression and fighting break out. Look around you. The changes in our lives breed anxiety; anxiety
breeds anger; and anger vents itself in aggression and fighting. This takes place in all kinds of places from
hockey rinks to church meetings, the dinner table, and wherever people do not
get their way.
If we want our children to be able to
navigate change and transitions with grace and dignity, it is imperative that
we learn to handle change and transitions with grace and dignity, too. We all can learn to relax, lighten up, and
settle down. We must teach our children
that they will not always be on the starting team or in first chair in the
orchestra. Classes will drop at the
worst times. Professors do make mistakes
and some coaches are jerks. We must
teach our children that change happens – and they can handle it!
In 2007, the National Hockey League initiated
the “It’s
Just a Game” Campaign. The
campaign was designed to teach the hockey world that hockey is “just a game.” The National Hockey League was committed to
changing its image. Hockey is not about aggression
and fighting. Hockey is about teamwork,
skill, and sportsmanship.
In 30-second television ads children
and others were portrayed in everyday situations, but acting like a “perceived”
hockey player.” Fights would break out
in absurd situations. The ad then concluded,
“It’s just a game.” In other words, “Relax. Lighten up. Settle down.”
In one campaign, a policeman pulls a
man over for a traffic violation. The
man’s 12-year-old son starts yelling, “This call stinks, you moron! Are you
kidding me? Where are your glasses!!” The
boy then starts yelling at the Dad, “Are you going to take this Dad? Stand up for yourself.” The campaign ends, “It’s just a game.” Clearly,
bad behavior is ridiculous at hockey games and everywhere else. [cf. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZxduazZp7bo].
My boys loved hockey. They were never in a fight. They learned life lessons of teamwork,
sportsmanship, and respect for authority.
Our children will face many changes
in life – especially as they head back to school. As dads, we can help our children face these
changes with grace and dignity. We want
our children to know that change does happen and they can handle it!
Jeff Sippy, a Dad-In-Training, is the father of three young men and the husband of Cindy. He enjoys sailing every chance that he gets. He is the senior pastor at Redeemer Lutheran in Springfield, MO and can be reached for question or comment at jsippy@rlcmail.org
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