Clayton Sippy -- Software Developer, O'Reilly Automotive, Springfield, MO
My dad was a Good Dad even if he seemed backwards and out of touch at times. When I graduated from high school in 1978 my dad said, “Well, son, you will never sleep for free again.”
These were shocking words to me. I was a
guy who had been spoon fed most of his life.
It sounded like free was disappearing for me.
My dad went on to explain. “You can join the service, go to college, get
an apartment, or pay room and board.” All
of these options were going to cost me something.
I opted for the room and board. It was a painful $75 a month but considerably
less than my mortgage today.
In truth, nothing is free. An education is not free. Service to your country is not free. An apartment or house is not free. Nothing is free. And Freedom itself is not free, either. Freedom
costs us all. If we will not pay the
cost of freedom then we will pay the higher cost of slavery to ourselves and to
disappointment.
Nothing is free; not even freedom
itself. Children who are not taught this
will become greatly disadvantaged. They
will become self-centered and entitled children who grow up to be angry and
hopeless. They will blame others for the
circumstances of life they cannot manage or negotiate. They will talk about how unfair life is and
how stupid others are.
Sadly, self-centered and entitled children
are the uneducated ones. What appears to
be unfair is nothing other than poor education and equipping.
Life is not fair all the time. This doesn’t mean it is bad. It took my son six months to get his first
job. Is this fair? It’s life.
In contrast, my dad was out of work a half a dozen times during my
childhood – sometimes months at a time. Both
of them adjusted to their situation.
True freedom costs everyone. We all must sacrifice and give in to enjoy
the freedom we desire. Or we all become
slaves. One person’s freedom should
never be at the expense of another person’s freedom.
For freedom to prevail we must defeat
the oppressive enemy of our own selfish and entitled ways. We must surrender ourselves to the greater
good of a free society. One person’s
freedom of speech does not give him the right to yell “fire” in a theatre or to
call another person a racially or sexually charged insult or name. The freedom of religion guarantees all people
the freedom of religion whether someone else’s religion is the same as yours or
not.
It is not easy being a Good Dad and it
is not easy teaching your children good things.
Freedom is not a matter of doing whatever you want, whenever you
want. Rather, freedom is the power and the
courage to do what is right.
Nothing in life is free – not even
freedom itself. And that’s o.k.
Jeff Sippy, a Dad-In-Training, is the father of three young men and the husband of Cindy. He enjoys sailing every chance that he gets. He is the senior pastor at Redeemer Lutheran in Springfield, MO and can be reached for question or comment at jsippy@rlcmail.org
Good stuff Jeff. Here's to all the Good Dad's in training (raises virtual beer glass).
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